What were some of the things your mother always told you? I asked this question of my students and of many of my Special kids, as well as attendees at one of my seminars. It's pretty standard in many of the sayings they came up with like: "When I say NO, I mean NO. What part of NO don't you understand?" Or,"Ask your Dad." There were many of them that have been passed on by many families for many years, maybe even generations. See if some of these are familiar to you:   

"Do what I say, not what I do."  

"Stop crying, or I'll give you something to cry about."  

"Eight hours of work for eight hours of pay."  

"You've made your bed, now lie in it."  

"Mind your P's and Q's." ( I never knew what that meant.)  
"Eat all your food, children in China are starving." 
(I'm still suffering the consequenses of that old saying)
"Waste not, want not."  

"What goes around, comes around."  

"Never judge a book by it's cover."  

"There's two sides to every story."  

"Wait til your Father gets home."  

"Don't talk with your mouth full."  

"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."  

"This will hurt me, more than it will you." (Boy, was that one a crock!)  


I'm sure that if you were filling out the answers you could find many,many more. Try it. Even ask your spouse, significant other, or friends at work. You'll be surprized how many you can come up with. You'll probably find many you never even heard of too. Here were a few strange ones I came up with in my search:  

"If you fall out of a tree and break both legs, Don't come running to me!"
(Can you believe that one?)  

"If your friends jumped off the bridge, would you do it too?"  

"Never go to bed without your underwear, in case the house catches fire."  

"If you want to run away, I'll help you pack."  

"Say that again and I"ll wash your mouth out with soap."(ICK!)  

"He got your goat, because you let him know where you kept it tied up."  

"Just don't get blood on the carpet!"(I wonder what brought that comment on?)  

As I said, there are probably many more that you could come up with.The amazing thing is, there is alot of sayings that we've heard all of our lives and we could probably finish the sentences ourselves once someone started to say it. We might have heard them many times or only a few times but still we remember them. Why is it then that we have such a hard time remembering the many times we received the encouraging or uplifting comments? The times we were told,   
"I LOVE YOU!" 
"YOU DID A GREAT JOB!" 
"YOU CAN DO, OR BE, ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE." 
"THANKS FOR THE GREAT JOB YOU DID ON MY LOAN." 
We hear wonderful comments said to us, or about us, and yet we don't hear or remember those comments very well. Instead we listen for the bad or negative and remember those comments as if they were truth instead of an opinion, and maybe an incorrect one from a client who just didn't understand. Maybe the comment came from a co-worker who was having a bad day and didn't mean what was said. I guess at times we all wear our feelings on our sleeves. Right now we are seeing alot of hardship, changes, and tough times for many of our peers in the lending industry. People who have helped us put our deals together in many areas of service; Wholesale reps, underwriters, funders, doc draw people, processors,escrow officers, appraisers, a fellow loan officer who helped us know where to put that hard to place loan, and many many  more. It's at times like these we need to pull out some of the things we learned from our Mothers, or other individuals we love, and share them with those around us who are having a hard time remembering they are Special and deserve to hear it. Personally, my Grandmother always said," Connie, where ever you are, BE THERE! " We need to be there for each other now. Don't be afraid to let others out there know that you have a kind word and a little bit of encouragement for them. My Grandmother realized that she was not a failure at her job. It was the Depression that caused her lack of material things, and lack of food for her family. She stood above the poverty of the Nation and raised her family well with what she had. Her strength and self determination carried her through. She believed in who she was,and what she did, and taught her family well, values that carried them through to raise their families well. Lets reach out to those around us in our community and remind each other of the truths of our beliefs and who we are. VERY SPECIAL PEOPLE!!!! The Greatest gift of all is the Love Inside of You. SHARE IT!!!!   

CONNIE GIBSON
  


THINGS YOUR MOTHER ALWAYS SAID, AND YOU DIDN'T WANT TO HEAR 
Additional Quotes: . . .  

Children should be seen and not heard.  
 

Never tell a lie, it may come back and haunt you.
Walk on the sunnyside, but park in the shade.  

'When I say No, I mean No.  

"What part of No don't you understand???"  

"Go Ahead, push me!"  

"Go ask your Dad!"  

"CONNIE - WHEREVER YOU ARE, BE THERE!"  

"Find something you love doing so much, that you'll do it for free and then become so good at it, that people will pay you to do it." 


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