I'm sorry to hear that the relationship between you and your boyfriend is not going as you had expected or wanted.  It does hurt to know that the person you care about and love, isn't in the same place you are with the relationship. BUT, it is also wonderful to hear that you are spending time in the Word, and seeking out God's Will for your life!  

     There is nothing more important that you can do than to spend quality time with the Lord, and time with His saints in the form of fellowship with other Believers. God will honor your decision to spend time in the Word, with a closeness to Himself, and the comfort that you need in pulling away from your boyfriend emotionally. 

     Trust the Lord first and foremost and love Him above all else and He will meet the desires of your heart. Remember that God is your true lover or husband. Don't be in too big of hurry to be married. I think we make it too easy for couples to get married and too easy for them to get a divorce. Don't take my comment wrong about Christ being your Husband. I don't mean like the Catholic nuns say they are married to Christ, but remembering that according to Scriptures, Jesus IS the Bridegroom of the church, and we are individually the church.  

     Even when we are married, we woman tend to demand and require more from our husbands than they can possibly perform or fulfill as individual "human" men, and men tend to have unrealistic expectations of we woman as well. Both men and woman equally have unrealistic expectations of our each other to meet our own needs:  financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically, psychologically, etc. Even to the point of expecting them to read our minds. ("If I have to tell you what's wrong , then you couldn't really love me and you weren't listening." or, "Well, if you don't already know, I shouldn't have to tell you." )  

     Only God Himself can truly meet our deepest needs and fulfill our deepest longings. When we do not trust God Almighty to meet the needs that only He can meet, we put undo added pressures, on our spouses that they were never intended to have.  Our expectations need to come from God and for His fellowship. Something that we should share with our spouse, not require them to meet. 

    Your utmost desire and responsibility should be, to be all you can be in Praise and thanks to the Lord for all that He has done for you.  Not to be all for, or please everything, a human counterpart here on earth thinks he/she wants. In reality, the only thing that other person really needs as well, is to have a complete and loving relationship with Our Heavenly Father that meets their own personal needs, and then shares their wholeness with someone that they love, like yourself.  

     Take time and let the Lord direct you to the one you will choose to be with for the rest of your life.  Marriage is too great of a decision to be made lightly. 
     The problem today, and in relationships, is that we have too many expectations of others, in our personal loneliness, to meet those needs that we have, that only God Himself can meet. 

     Some of the truths I've always seen in male/female relationships are these: 
        Women marry men hoping they will change and they never do. 
        Men marry woman wishing they'll never change and they always do. 

If you see things that you do not like, and you will, don't ask yourself if you can live with him and these irritations, but ask yourself if you love him so much that you can't live without him, accepting these things, just as he is. Don't try to change him.  Pray for him and allow God to direct him to be all he can be. Believe me, God's pressure can be much more successful than yours.  

      Men need to ask themselves if they love their choices in the woman they want to marry enough to cherish them through the changes they are going to make and if they are willing to allow her the freedom to change with God's direction and natural inclinations.  The responsibilities of the household, work and possible children, always give the woman more responsibilities and she will change to accomplish the tasks before her. 

     I pray that you don't take this as preaching at you..... I only know because I've been there in my own varying degrees.  My ex-husband was always looking out there for someone or something to make him "happy".  That better job, more money, the new car, the new woman. The reality is that, no one can make you happy outside of yourself and your personal relationship with God. What we should be seeking is not happiness but true "JOY" and there IS a difference.  Joy comes from having the "Victory" in life, not the easy way out of commitments or responsibilities. The feeling of happiness can change on a whim of emotions.  If you live by emotions you can fall in love with a donkey or a doorknob. It doesn't really matter. 

     My ex-husband said that God wanted him to be "happy." In reality, God wants a close and personal relationship with us individually.  He wants us to experience victory in our lives, to live an example of His love to others, to fulfill our life's commitments or purposes, and He desires for us to depend on Him for our strength and our daily sustenance. 

     Victory is commitment, being a keeper of your word, truly being there for others and not running off when the going gets rough or unpleasant. God wants you to be "Joy-filled". Filled with His love and peace. Having the victory in our personal choices. Being concerned with who we are as individuals and in our personal character. It's all about who we are, not what we do for a living or how much we make.  

     Always remember that "Love" is a verb. It is active. Love is something that you do.  Love and commitment are something you do long past the time that the "feeling" leaves you to do it.  

     Hang on for, and hold out for, that very Special individual who will love you deeply and will desire God's best for your life, enough to constantly try to be all he can be for God first and than for you also.  Wait for that man who is willing to love you as Christ loved the church and laid His life down for it. Wait for that one who cherishes you and your presence with him. You deserve the best! Don't settle for second best, or third, or fourth.  Pray and God will provide avenues for that person to come into your life.  But first, spend all the time you can, being all you can be for him too. Newness and the warm-fuzzies soon wear off.  A man and woman who are committed to God first and who refuse to take their eyes off of Him, will stand the test of time.  It takes both of you to constantly work at the relationship. Put God in the center. Pray together. 

     I'm still looking forward to the time when we can get together and spend some quality time together ourselves. I love you so much!   God WILL continue to Bless you as He promised.  Just trust Him. I'm always here for a sounding board if you need me.